The one thing which I dread and am really afraid of is when a girl tells me "I cant look at you in that way", wonder what that is supposed to mean. God I hate it, fear it. Next day I keep looking at myself in mirror while shaving, and wondering if that has got to do with the way I look, the way I smile, the way I have my hair or it has got to do with her vision. And in general girls don’t want to argue and discuss this subject, while it is so obvious to them, it seems Latin Greek to me and leaves me totally perplexed. The only thing that I get out of them is that I don’t appear to be that serious. But the problem is that if I start talking serious stuff then I don’t even get this far, I mean then girls will never be interested in me.Because girls like fun-loving easy-going guys. So you see it is vicious circle. And I think the key is to identify the point of transition when I have to change myself from easy-going to hard-tuff, from talking about food and the latest Johny Depp movie to talking about future career prospectus and the real estate pricing.
But the most funniest thing that I find is that the same girl (I mean the same girl who tells me that I am not serious), when she goes out to meet the guy that parents have chosen for her, by default start seeing him as perspective husband, even though most of the times I find him as idiotic as myself.
I guess you girls have to understand that life is difficult for guys with the competition so high since most of the girls find a boyfriend just after their birth leaving none for a ideal guy like me. Moreover the female to male ratio is decreasing day by day. I guess on an average a girl might get proposed 5 times in her bachelorhood (I have no data on how much on married girls), whereas a guy like me might die to get proposed even once. Now when I have got to think about it I don’t think any of my boy-friends (somehow calling boy friends looks little shady, I mean my friends who are guys) have ever got proposed, at least no one has ever told me about it. And trust me guys also have very little threshold of falling in love, and they practically fall in love with any girl. I think if a guy meets a girl for ten times he would surely fall in love. This is especially true if the guy comes from some college like NIT or IIT where there is scarcity of quality girls.
So please all you girls don’t take it very seriously if I ask you out for a cup of coffee, I am just looking for a harmless cup of coffee. Don’t make any character based assumptions about me. And please don’t treat me as an agony uncle and start talking about the antics of your new boyfriend, about how he does not pay any attention to you or whatsoever, because I AM NOT HERE TO SOLVE PROBLEMS, I ALSO WANT TO FALL IN LOVE. I might listen with lot of enthusiasm but my heart says “oh no not again” and please don’t do it especially when I am sponsoring you a cup of coffee. And if possible do let me know when is the transition point, rather when you girls would see me as a serious person. One last request never ever say that I am too good and I will get any girl in this universe. Just answer me if am so good then why I haven’t got a perfect match after wandering around 16 states of India and wasting 23 years of my valuable life being single.